What to Say
Say what you see. Describe to your friends how they were acting when they were drunk. Stick to their behavior and do not label it or judge it. For example: "Last night you fell down three times on the way back to the dorm...", or, "Last night you were really loud and you picked a fight with that guy down the hall."
- Say what you feel. Approach your friend from a place of caring and concern. Let them know that you don't want to see them get hurt and that you feel scared... hurt...angry...sad...whatever...when you see them engage in certain behaviors when they are drunk.
- Say what you know. Share with them information that you know to be true about drinking. Correct their misperceptions about alcohol use on campus. Give them brochures, etc. (free brochures and other self-help information can be found at the Counseling Center information stand, Room 571 Student Services Building).
- Say where your boundaries are. Hold them accountable for their actions when drunk. Make the choice not to enable them through covering up or cleaning up. For example: "I'm not holding your head over the toilet again."
- Say why there is hope. Offer to talk with your friends about their concerns. Offer your support and encouragement if they want to make changes in their drinking habits. Let them know that change is possible and that you believe in them.